So I am a bit late to the party and have no idea if you are still looking but I will still put it out there. I definately get the cookie cutter aspect as it seems the server list is flooded with mediocre servers with a decent player count that strangle good small servers trying to get on their feet.
I don’t completely understand the cops must win aspect. Are you talking about people forcing scenarios or scripting? We just have our LEO always match the numbers of civilians to make sure its a fun experience for both sides.
We were whitelisted and have switched off the whitelist for a bit to try to grow our player base. Also we are currently V Menu but are in the works of creating an ESX server as well so that players also have the choice of either.
When we were whitelisted we were age restricted to 15-16+ and all members went through application and interview processes to make sure they were mature enough to join.
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