Hey Aztec,
Looks like you got a lot of requirements, and I don’t know if I can make all of them, but I would figure throw out my server as an option for you too. I too am an experienced FiveM vet that has gone through his ups and downs as many communities have failed to provide me with a lasting home. So, I decided to start my own to finally try to provide what I thought was missing from FiveM for people like me. It is pretty much brand new as I only started doing play testing on it about a month ago. I do not have the player base or anything yet, but I am hoping to get that with consistent good sessions and that can only be done with dedicated good players. I am willing to work on my end to try to make people satisfied, but I also need the support of a proper player base.
Some things about me:
5+ years on FiveM (Mixture of LEO and CIV)
Been learning to develop now for a year or so
Strive for realism in my sessions, even won an award on a server for it once interestingly enough
Have a bunch of leadership experience in both real life and in fivem
I am also a Criminal Justice Major with a background somewhat in legal studies
This is just so that you can see that I am not bsing you and that you can see that this community is probably going in a similar direction you are looking for. If you are not interested since it is a bit of an upstart, that’s fair but if you are then check us out here and come say hi in the discord!