have you port forwarded, try to send your ip to a friend whit fivem and after you have connected, try to see if he cant connect, you havent portforwarded right
edit:after a server restart, you need to direct connect and then if everything is right it should be visible (atleast i had to when i homehosted my server)
Are you hosting it on the same PC ur playing on?
If so the reason ur not seeing it is because its trying to check ur EXTERNAL IP, whilist that being urself so it wont resolve.
I had the same problem. It eventually popped up on the list but it said I had to update my binaries. Download the newest artifacts here: https://runtime.fivem.net/artifacts/fivem/