Hey, I think our community has what you are looking for. We are a vmenu North Carolina based server that we strive for good quality and immersion. We are a bit more on the serious side while in patrol, but we can be quite goofy at times. We do expect some level of activity (a community does have to run after all), but I get that being busy is a burden. I myself work a busy job and also am putting myself through college atm, and most of our players are working adults with intensive jobs. I am sure we can find a way to work around it. We are smaller and newer, so we are trying to improve our consistency and player count.
If you are interested here is our forum post where you can see some screenshots of the server and a video on there as well as our discord.