this might sound dumb but i dont know how to access the database files i’ve tried using HeidiSQL but its not working so id like to know if someone knows another good program to do so OR just how, if i dont need any program.
You don’t open “files.” ESX uses MySQL/MariaDB.
Lot of people are using xampp 
But it’s the worse thing to use. Download the MariaDB server from the official website, and run it. (Just type in google MariaDB Server download)
During setup set a root password.
Then use them to log in to your database using HeidiSQL. And at your server.cfg
HeidiSQL doesnt launch…
No error?
no just doesnt lauch at all
XD, can you make a video?
Redownload it from github this is a ABSOLUTE LINK so if you dont want to download the absolute link then read below. https://github.com/HeidiSQL/HeidiSQL/releases/download/v12.13.0.7147/HeidiSQL_12.13.0.7147_Setup.exe
Heidi has switched to github now for downloads that link is a absolute link to download latest ver of heidi, if you dont want to use an absolute link you can use this but make sure you select HeidiSQL_12.13.0.7147_Setup.exe < Link
Here is a video to help you set it up after downloading, This is my video and it might be a little outdated but should be the same steps 
still doesnt lauch